If this isn't love, tell me what it is..

Love is a powerful thing, is it not? It makes us do silly things, that somehow in retrospect we probably would never do again, or thought, really? What is THAT severe? Well sometimes it could be, sometimes love clouds all judgement, and we do things, totally irrational, out of character things. All in the name of love.

I know of a girl, who's comtemplating suicide, because her boyfriend left her- again. It's one thing to be in love, or to love someone, but it's another thing to be stupid. Perhaps love has that affect on us also...who knows? That may be a bit harsh, but I don't understand how we allow people to have such control over us. Suicide? SERIOUSLY?

Maybe it is understandable. As human beings, we have a natural desire to be accepted, to be loved, to feel appreciated and wanted, and that desire and most often the concept, the idea of being in love is what harms us most. We're often in love with the idea of being in love, and so we put ourselves in situations we know make no sense, just to have a reason to say "I love you".

Loving someone, admittedly is a great feeling, having that equal that you can rely on for just about ANYTHING, trusting and knowing that with that kiss, all of your troubles can melt away, that person that makes you weak in your knees, that consumes all of your thoughts, your every being even, that person that you'd potentially give that being for...wow...even I want it. But at what cost?

Why should there be a price for this great gift of love, and why must it be so damn expensive?

On this Valentine's Day, the day of "love" (don't wanna get started on that) perhaps we need to take a look at ourselves, our relationships, take stock, and ensure that we are in it for the right reasons. LOVE is not taking advantage of someone, or having someone take advantage of you, LOVE is not about manipulation and degredation, LOVE is not about self loathing and self hatred. If that's how he says "I love you", then my dear there is a problem and you need to RUN.

Suicide is not the answer, why give him that much control, that much power, and the satisfation? We should never allow someone to have THAT much control over our lives. I know that you're hurting right now, and you feel like your world can crumble at any minute, but don't give up hope, the most important love of all is love of self and love of God. Love yourself enough to save yourself, learn from this experience, heed its warnings, and move forward.

Moral of the story children, is that love or the idea of being in love should never have such adverse affects on us, if it does, then it's not love. Love yourself first and foremost, for then you'll be able to love, and know how to be loved. Love genuinely, passionately, and appropriately...if he ain't feeling you, he ain't feeling you...there's nothing else you can do. Let it go.

Heed my warning. Love you first, and all will be well.

This has been collegeguy.